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The Two of Swords Card
Article By Expert Beautiful Blessings; Image by Sasha Palacio
The Two of Swords is a card of mixed messages. It can show a friendship of opposites on a good term. On the other hand, there can be a decision you have to make between two completely different things. You may feel confused and stuck in the spot, not knowing where to go from here. You must take charge now; don't procrastinate. The Two of Swords can also show that things may not be moving and will take some time to get going; do the best you can to wait this period out.
The Two of Swords shows that your focus is on moving ahead, despite any fear or confusion you may have. Doubts are going away as you're making decisions to move ahead without restrictions. The Two of Swords can commonly indicate an unexpected new love coming into the picture, finding a lost object, helping others, an unexpected trip, a proposal, getting over a feud with a relative, a surprise meeting, mixed emotions, being thankful for help, and being successful over some obstacles by taking chances and not being afraid, though some obstacles will still remain.
Top Ten Dating Advice
Written By Expert Azzrian Visions
Are you struggling to make your current relationship work, or looking to find that perfect someone? Check out these great dating suggestions and you'll never go wrong.
- Don’t hold the new person in your life up to any comparison of a past love, especially one you are not yet fully over.
- Use the three-date rule: Give a new person in your life three dates before you make a decision to stop seeing them. It takes at least three dates for people to be really comfortable with themselves around you and show who they truly are, be that a good thing or a bad thing!
- Do something active, dinner and a movie is nice but you cannot have conversation during a movie and you do not really get to know them well.
- Ask them questions about themselves that will tell you if they are compatible. Also tell stories about your life. If you enjoy skiing then tell them about your latest skiing adventure. Even if they are not an avid skier you can find out if they have an interest by how they react to your story!
- Find out about their social life and see if it matches your own. Are they active or do they like to stay at home more often? Do they have friends of the opposite sex and is it okay with you if they do?
- Ask about their family life, if they have siblings; are they close to their family? Then compare to your own, you need not match perfectly but remember if you become serious with this person their family can later become your own.
- Notice the small things. We often over look the things that could later annoy us. Just keep in mind the three-date rule!
- Do not expect the WOW factor right off the bat, sometimes chemistry can sneak up on you!
- Don’t discuss your issues until you have been on several dates. Let a person decide if they like you enough to want to delve into that first. No one wants to hear about your ex for hours on a first or second date!
- Don’t wait around for that call for more than a couple weeks! If someone likes you enough to want to go out again they will contact in a reasonable amount of time! Remember you can take initiative too, after a couple days if you want to call them and ask them out that is fine! If they are not excited to hear from you and wanting to schedule that next date, its best to move on!
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Q1: I am in love with a guy for the past year. He doesn't want to commit to a relationship. He keeps saying that he does not want a girlfriend but told me that he cares more about me than I know and yet does not want to commit. That's the first time that he has ever said anything like that since telling me he loved me back in October of last year. Then the I-don't-want-a-girlfriend words came months later. We hang out every so often and watch movies together, he cooks for me, treats me well most of the time...I don't know what to do. I think that I cry more than ever each night. Please help me. I'm lost!
A1: You have to decide whether your long term emotional happiness is worth the sporadic instances of feel good energy that hanging out with this guy brings you. When a guy tells you he does not want to commit, believe him. If what you are looking for is a committed relationship, then you have to take control of the situation by ending things with him, so your energy can be open to letting new guys in. The longer you wait around for this current guy to change, the longer you are holding out on finding the true love that you deserve. There is a guy out there that will give you the commitment you want. But, until you are ready to let go of this current guy, you will remain in a holding pattern. You ultimately have the power to shift course and move on. Wonderful romantic opportunities lie ahead should you take that leap of faith and let the Universe know you are ready for a committed boyfriend. Sending you many blessings of love and strength!
-- by Expert Zuri
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Q2: I am married with two children. The problem is sometimes I feel like I made a big mistake by getting married to my husband because I am no longer "in love" with him. The awful truth is I just care for him; I have considered separating from him. On the other hand, I have had a past relationship that still affects me on an emotional level. Sometimes I cannot sleep from what happened between us and I still get very upset and nervous about the past just thinking about him. And at this time I have been able to re-connect with him. He tells me he wants us to be together and that if I am not happy I need to leave my husband and move on. How do I know this man is being serious? Does he really want a serious relationship with me even though I have two children that are not his? Is he ready for this responsibility? Does he still love me and care for me as much as he said he does? Does he really have another woman on the side or is he just playing that off so that I can make a decision? Stressed out!!!!! HELP!!!!
A2: Leaving a relationship is never easy- and it’s not a good idea to do that while embarking on a new one. The decision to leave your marriage should be made separately from any involvement with anyone else. This is a difficult decision and it may take time and some very deep soul searching before you decide what is best for you and your family.
-- by Expert Willows Insights
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Q3: In March of last year, I started seeing a man that was working in my town; he's originally from Indiana and was here for 6 months. He is married but said he is waiting for his wife to divorce him. His job took him to Ohio in September and I've been there twice to see him. Everything was fine between us until a week ago...now he barely text messages me and has only called maybe two times. His whole demeanor has changed towards me. I'm having difficulty moving on--my heart is breaking and I feel like I'm addicted to him. What do you think my next step should be?
A3: First thing you have to do is realize you can only control your actions, your thoughts, your decisions and not his. Your first objective is to create a sense of certainty by optimizing the conversations you are still having with him (that means not pursuing arguments or disagreements), and trying to created consistent communication by engaging him via his strongest communication preferences.
-- by Expert Mondez Durden
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